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Sober Vibes Feature! Congrats Jen!

Uncategorized Jun 06, 2020

Sober Vibes Feature

Here is the fantastic Jen sending the Sober Vibes since 5/1/11...

I will always share the truth of my addiction story because there is an umbrella of silence hanging above those of us recovering from drug use, and we do not need to be ashamed!
But today, my heart feels called to talk about my recovery story!
I want to tell you how each morning I get to wake up in my bed and when the sun peeks through the window... there’s no more fear of not knowing how I will survive another day.
My body is no longer covered in abscesses, the track marks have mostly faded away, and as I look down at my hands, they aren’t swollen, dirty, and numb.
I have teeth in my smile and life in my eyes, and when I walk past a mirror, I am still in awe that the woman I see is me...
I have taken back the pen to my life, the power of my voice, and demanded my body be returned to me. My heart is full of love, my life is blessed with friends, and as I write this, I...

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Sober Vibes Feature! Congrats Rebecca!

Uncategorized Jun 06, 2020

Sober Vibes Feature

Here is the fantastic Rebecca sending the Sober Vibes since 4/4/11...

“Every day I wake up, I now have a choice of how I am going to live. In my active drinking career, I did not. I believe we all know the story of how it happens. Our stories are the fuel to our drinking, and when we get done telling the story of why we need to drink, we can then rewrite the story to how we no longer need to drink. For this to happen, we must realize the problem. My problem was alcohol and the incomprehensible demoralization that followed every time I drank. Towards the end, it was just downright U G L Y!

One day, my solution becomes the problem, and that problem led me to the solution-getting sober and entering into recovery. Eventually, after a few twenty-four hours, I found that I did not have to feel bad anymore. I found a group of like-minded people that showed me how to “live off the booze” and put the broken pieces of my life back together. I then...

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12 Must-Read Books For Women in Sobriety

Uncategorized Apr 27, 2020


One of my favorite things about becoming sober is getting to focus on myself through personal development. This has a lot of different forms: exercise, finances and budgeting, or even just learning how to be happy without booze. The list of ways to improve yourself is practically infinite.

And when you think about learning, you might think about cracking open a book and learning from someone else. There are loads of sobriety & recovery stories out there to inspire, but surprisingly, many of my favorite books for sober women go way deeper than battling addiction with substance abuse.  From the super-inspiring Mel Robbins, to more modern self-help guide Jen Sincero, you’ll find a book you'll be glad you read cover to cover.

1. The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins
2. Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp
3. You Are A Badass by Jen Scenario

4. My Fair Junkie by Amy Dresner
5. Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
6. Atomic Habits by James Clear

7. Super Attractor...

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Are you controlling alcohol or is alcohol controlling you?

Uncategorized Apr 17, 2020

Have you ever wondered?

Yes, wondered who is really in control of the relationship between you and alcohol?

I spent four years out of my ten-year relationship, trying to control alcohol.  

I would spend months in a cycle of no shots, no liquor, only drinking on the weekends, and also taking periods completely off from drinking.

Alcohol and I were a continuous toxic and exhausting relationship.

My love affair with alcohol always brought me to a place of shame, guilt, failure, loneliness, and a place of never getting ahead in life—a cycle of one step forward and two steps back.

In August 2012, I decided to get off the ride and broke up with alcohol for good.

Maybe you have been questioning your relationship with alcohol? 

Maybe you are wondering if alcohol has more control over you then you like to admit?

Maybe you are wondering, do I have a drinking problem or an unhealthy relationship with alcohol?

Take my latest quiz to see where you stand with your...

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15 Spring Mocktails

mocktails Apr 11, 2020

15 Spring and Summer Mocktails

Is it just me or are you craving a summer getaway this early into the year, too? One of my favorite ways to spoil myself in the summer is with an icy beverage - virgin style. Since I'm cooped up inside waiting for summer, I decided to dip my toe into the mocktail waters and try some fancy virgin cocktails - just for fun!

Many of these mocktails focus on serving the original cocktail virgin style which is great for serving for any party or special occasion. My favorite part about mixing mocktails is putting my own twist on classic recipes and including freshly brewed sparkling water!

Sparkling water is my go-to for adding excitement to any drink. 

Grab yourself a few tall glasses and pour a fancy alcohol-free drink and get your fancy on:


Don't forget about the ice!


15 Virgin Spins on Classic Cocktails

Mimosa Mocktail

Simple, fresh orange juice is perfect for a brunch or morning pick-me-up drink!

Cucumber Collins


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3 Tips to help you push through Alcohol Cravings

Uncategorized Mar 19, 2020

Hey Friend!

I get what it's like to get stuck in alcohol cravings. 

The itch is what I like to call it.  In my first two years of Sobriety, I had cravings a lot.  It's normal because I spent a decade in a toxic love affair with alcohol.

Here are my 3 Tips to help you push through alcohol cravings.

1) Do something else.

When the craving hits, don't just sit in it the thoughts of it.  First, except this is normal, and DO NOT beat yourself up about it. Second, DO something.  Take action and start doing something during this time.  Cravings are around 7 minutes. So perfect time to distract yourself with journaling, exercise, drink some hot tea/water, color, and or read.  Tons of options to distract yourself during that time.

2) Remember your why.

When the craving hits, again, except the thought and remember, it's healthy! Then remember why you are choosing a life without alcohol.  Rember where alcohol leads you and where you never want to go back...

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Sober Vibes Feature! Congrats Hannah!

Uncategorized Feb 17, 2020

Here is the beautiful Hannah sending the sober since 12/31/18...

“365 days. To you, that may be a number. To me, it is everything. It’s the day my life started over. It’s a second chance. It’s a reminder that I am enough.

It’s the day I chose ME.

Recovery: It’s hard.

It’s a constant looming in the back of my head. It’s going to rehab, taking what I learned and using it. It’s a choice I make every time I get paid. It’s a right turn into my therapist’s office instead of a left turn towards my old dealer. It’s another person removed from my life. It’s reaching out to those who can help. It’s every moment of everyday kind of thing. Recovery: It’s the best. It’s a fresh start every morning. It’s cuddling my baby instead of sitting alone on the bathroom floor. It’s taking my grandma out to lunch. It’s working with people I love. It’s watching The Office with my...

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10 Mantras for Sobriety

Uncategorized Feb 11, 2020

Hey, Friend!

Are you are in a little funk currently because you are feeling stuck in your Sobriety journey.

I get it. 

I've been on this road for over seven years and have gone through being stuck, lows of self-doubt, and needing pep talks daily.

When I discovered the practice of daily mantras, things started to change for me when it came to what story I was telling myself. I started my training a few years back, and I began to feel lighter and free.  I believe in the power of positive self-talk. 

Mantras help! 

I know you may be thinking how can this help me and how uncomfortable this will feel, but they HELP.  Mantras start to rewire your brain and give you that pep talk that you need.  They truly change your mindset and help you gain confidence. 

Sobriety and recovery are work, and this is part of it. 

REBUILDING YOU is crucial to building your solid foundation in this journey.

I put together ten powerful mantras I have heard or have come...

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Sober Vibes Feature! Congrats Mary.

Uncategorized Feb 11, 2020

Here is the awesome Mary sending the Sober Vibes since 2/5/17...

“Today, I celebrate THREE YEARS of freedom from alcohol. Everything in my life is exponentially better than I could ever have imagined.

This Naked Mind by Annie Grace changed how I think about alcohol and taught me that I never HAVE to drink alcohol ever again. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is even a little curious about living a life free of alcohol.

There are many incredible sober IG accounts that I follow that provide insight and encouragement. @teedoodler is my favorite. His posts always give me something to think about.

A few of my other IG favorites are @courtney___andersen @sobergirlsociety @1000hoursdry @1000hoursdry_sf @boozeless @thisnakedmind

And finally, I think it’s important to point out that there is not one single negative thing about not drinking. Not an only thing.”

Happy 3rd Birthday! Keep kicking ass and inspiring others along your journey.

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Sober Vibes Feature! Congrats Christy.

Uncategorized Jan 31, 2020

Here is the beautiful Christy sending the Sober Vibes since..1/20/2018!

“Since quitting drinking two years ago, I knew my life would get better. I didn’t realize how much. It’s truly been amazing. I damaged so many relationships when I was drinking, especially my family. I never showed up on time, and when I did, it was in my state. It’s not that I didn’t care. I was such a slave to my disease and the bottle. Having removed that component, I’ve been showing up, even on-time, and I’m able to be present with my family and closest friends. I’m living my life with sobriety above everything else because if I didn’t have it, I wouldn’t have family, friends, or work. It works if you work it. The steps show through your actions. You get to live the promises. One day at a time.”

A slave to the bottle, so true! Congrats on your sobriety. Keep kicking ass and inspiring others along the way.

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