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Are They Just Your “Partner in Wine?”

mental health Jan 07, 2022

Codependency and substance abuse are two words often used in the same conversation. When two people are participating in toxic behavior together, it’s difficult for either of them to experience successful, long-term recovery.

Women often ask me how to tell a romantic partner they want to be sober. 

My answer is usually pretty simple! If they love and support you, it shouldn’t be a problem. 

When clients tell me their spouse “disagrees” with their sobriety, it’s usually because their spouse wants to continue their own unhealthy drinking behavior. 

I want you to find your own happiness. To find empowered sobriety, you need space to grow and heal. You need space of your own. 

Let’s talk about how you can do that!


What is a Codependent Relationship? 


Codependency involves an excessive, all-consuming dependence on a relationship. You feel like you couldn’t survive on your own or like you need this person to...

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Pro Tips for Overcoming Trauma and Healing Yourself.

mental health Jan 07, 2022

Hi Friends! 

You may or may not know that I host a Sober Vibes podcast

I talk about living openly as a recovering alcoholic and how my sobriety empowers my lifestyle. I was thrilled to interview Chris Nell, the Having a Cuppa podcast host, in a recent episode. We talked about overcoming trauma, narcissism, and Chris's journey recovering from drugs and alcohol. 

We covered a lot! 

Today I pulled some highlights from our episode to share with you on the blog. Of course, I recommend that you listen to the episode as well. Chris's story is truly inspirational and worth a listen. 

First, Chris opens up about how family dysfunction and his father's narcissism created wobbly circumstances for him growing up. We know that everyone has their own experiences and trauma in life. Unfortunately, that experience leads so many people to substance abuse

Both Chris and I both sought out AA as one of the first steps in our recovery. When you seek to overcome the...

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How to Fight FOMO When You’re Sober Curious.

Uncategorized Jan 06, 2022

Chances are you've experienced FOMO if you're sober or sober curious. 

On the blog today, we're going to discuss what FOMO is and how you can fight it head-on. Known as "the fear of missing out," this feeling can be frustrating and uncomfortable, to say the least. But it's just thoughts! 

With some dedicated focus, you can re-train your brain and shut down FOMO for good. This unnecessary feeling can force you to doubt your sobriety, and we don't need that! You are strong and powerful, and blocking out FOMO will help you embrace that. 


Understand What You're Feeling

Basically, FOMO feels like you can't enjoy what someone else seems to be enjoying. It's a psychological response that's natural to feel. What's important is what you do with that feeling. Do you let it consume you, or do you let your own light shine brighter? 

For me, the best way to overcome this fear is through acceptance and confidence in the way I'm choosing to live. When you experience FOMO...

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A Sober Women's Guide to Winter Wellness.

Uncategorized Jan 06, 2022

A Sober Women's Guide to Winter Wellness.

Do you find yourself going into hibernation mode as soon we start losing sunlight? It's easy to do! Living in Michigan gets next-level cold, and I'm often tempted by the "hanging in there" mentality. Keeping my mental and physical wellness on track is a massive part of my recovery. I know that I need to push myself a little extra to stay on track in the winter months. 

Today, I'm talking about the tips I use to protect my self-care from completely tanking just because it's gloomy outside! 

In this post, you'll learn: 

  1. Sunlight Substitutes 
  2. Thoughtful Nutrition
  3. Impactful Time Killers

Taking care of yourself can help you feel more in control of your recovery. So, this winter, I'm challenging you to embrace the empowering side of self-love. 


Sunlight Substitutions

  • To squeeze more natural sunlight into your life, change up your space! Try to eat lunch outside, move your desk near a window, or do an outdoor...
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10 Reasons To Get Sober This Fall

Uncategorized Aug 18, 2021


Are you still trying to find a reason to pursue your sober-curious dreams? 

Let me be the first to tell you that the grass is definitely greener on this side.

I’ve got 10 reasons for you to take the sober plunge today! 

  1. No more headaches, hangovers, or dates with your toilet. 
  2. No more “sorry I can’t make it today” texts. 
  3. Gaining confidence through taking care of yourself. 
  4. Working through past trauma, you didn’t even know you had and finding peace. 
  5. No more disappointing family and friends. 
  6. No more wondering if you’re a bad person (heads up, it’s the booze, not you). 
  7. Meeting sober friends who “get it” is the best feeling in the world. You’re not alone. 
  8. Developing new skills and hobbies with sober free time. 
  9. Finding new passions in life that aren’t dulled by alcohol. 
  10. No more post-drinking depression. 

Now, I know...

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Uncategorized Aug 14, 2021


August 18th, 2021, I celebrated nine years of sobriety!

I love this day and think that you should celebrate your sobriety celebrate everyday!

Every year I am humbled on this day. 

To see where my life was to where my life is now is a complete 180.  

The one change I made to my life compounded into the life I have always wanted.

As each year passes, I continue to learn and grow as a person.  I love it.

Even in the year 2021, when the world has been so heavy, I remained SOBER. 

So to celebrate sobriety and in the hopes of spreading it further, I wanted to share my top nine tips with you that have helped me in my recovery journey this far.

This journey is not comfortable, but one that is so worth it. 

Here are 9 tips to stay sober for my 9th sobriety birthday!

  1. One Day At A Time - Keep this journey simply by staying in today! I know it's easy to future trip, but it will just cause more anxiety.  Live in today.
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National Sober Day - Here's How YOU Can Celebrate!

Uncategorized Aug 03, 2021

National Sober Day - Here's How YOU Can Celebrate!

National Sober Day falls on September 14th, but we all know that sober is worth celebrating each day! National Sober Day gives us a day to celebrate nationwide with others fighting the same battle. 

This day encourages sober and non-sober people to celebrate those around them living in sobriety. This day also lands right in the middle of National Recovery Month. It’s important to be loud and proud during this month. Through community walks, seminars, documentaries, and rallies, Americans push for change and advocate for those in recovery.

So, how can you celebrate and advocate in your own way? 

Today, as the founder of this national holiday, I'm going to give you TEN ways you can celebrate National Sober Day!

  • Share your story.


Sharing your story is more powerful than you might think. Somewhere out there, there is likely someone that follows you, knowing that you’re sober. Sharing your story can...

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Fall Inspired Mocktail Recipes You Won't Want to Miss

Uncategorized Aug 03, 2021

Fall Inspired Mocktail Recipes You Won't Want to Miss.

As the seasons change, so do my mocktail ingredients! 

Making drinks at home is a way for me to be creative and make a treat for myself. Just because you’re sober or cutting back doesn’t mean you can’t have that fancy drink with dinner. 

These mocktail recipes are inspired by the cozy fall season. You’re sure to find a new favorite with this lineup. 

If you make one of these, tag me on Instagram so I can see! I love to see other sober women getting creative with mocktails. 

Hot drinks

  1. Cozy Tea Toddy

This mocktail has immune-boosting spices! Perfect for if you’re feeling a little under the weather. Plus, the recipe makes eight servings, so you can save to warm up later. 

  1. Hot Not Toddy

Another tea-based classic. You can make this one for yourself and even share with the kids!

  1. Zero-Proof Hot Buttered Rum

This recipe is described as a “buttery spice fueled drink...

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How to Tell a Friend You Need Space in Sobriety

Uncategorized Jul 12, 2021

How to Tell a Friend You Need Space in Sobriety.


Each person experiences different, unique feelings during recovery and will require different levels of support. 

There will be times when you’ll need extra love and moments when you need space. The people around you will want to support you as much as possible, but you have a right to ask for space whenever you need it. 

Today we’re going to chat about how to ask for some breathing room! 

Reasons you might need space.

There are a few different ways you could need space. You might have too many people trying to feed you advice, and even though it’s coming from a good place, that can get overwhelming! 

Or, you could be facing judgment in a negative way from friends or family. Maybe they don’t fully understand your decision and are having trouble adjusting. Whether you’re facing a positive or negative overwhelm, you might need a break

Overwhelm can also come from too...

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How to Quit Drinking When Your Partner Isn't Sober

Uncategorized Jul 03, 2021

How to Quit Drinking When Your Partner Isn't Sober.


Deciding that you’re ready to give up alcohol is a brave choice! I’m willing to bet that you’re tired of hangovers and drunk arguments. If you’re not careful, alcohol can put a huuuuge strain on any relationship. 

When they say drinking alcohol is like pouring gasoline on your anxiety, which goes for relationships. People often say things they don’t mean and end up being more hurtful than helpful. 

Today, I want to talk about sticking to your *sober* guns.

Even though you’re in a relationship, you’re still an individual. You’ve got to do what’s right for you, your body, and your mind. 

Make sure they understand your reasoning.

To get your partner on board with your choice, you’ll need to help them understand your reasoning. They likely already know your feelings toward alcohol, but having a genuine conversation will be key. 

Now, let me be clear...

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