One of my favorite things about becoming sober is getting to focus on myself through personal development. This has a lot of different forms: exercise, finances and budgeting, or even just learning how to be happy without booze. The list of ways to improve yourself is practically infinite.
And when you think about learning, you might think about cracking open a book and learning from someone else. There are loads of sobriety & recovery stories out there to inspire, but surprisingly, many of my favorite books for sober women go way deeper than battling addiction with substance abuse. From the super-inspiring Mel Robbins, to more modern self-help guide Jen Sincero, you’ll find a book you'll be glad you read cover to cover.
1. The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins
2. Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp
3. You Are A Badass by Jen Scenario
4. My Fair Junkie by Amy Dresner
5. Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
6. Atomic Habits by James Clear
7. Super Attractor...
Have you ever wondered?
Yes, wondered who is really in control of the relationship between you and alcohol?
I spent four years out of my ten-year relationship, trying to control alcohol.
I would spend months in a cycle of no shots, no liquor, only drinking on the weekends, and also taking periods completely off from drinking.
Alcohol and I were a continuous toxic and exhausting relationship.
My love affair with alcohol always brought me to a place of shame, guilt, failure, loneliness, and a place of never getting ahead in life—a cycle of one step forward and two steps back.
In August 2012, I decided to get off the ride and broke up with alcohol for good.
Maybe you have been questioning your relationship with alcohol?
Maybe you are wondering if alcohol has more control over you then you like to admit?
Maybe you are wondering, do I have a drinking problem or an unhealthy relationship with alcohol?
Take my latest quiz to see where you stand with your...
Is it just me or are you craving a summer getaway this early into the year, too? One of my favorite ways to spoil myself in the summer is with an icy beverage - virgin style. Since I'm cooped up inside waiting for summer, I decided to dip my toe into the mocktail waters and try some fancy virgin cocktails - just for fun!
Many of these mocktails focus on serving the original cocktail virgin style which is great for serving for any party or special occasion. My favorite part about mixing mocktails is putting my own twist on classic recipes and including freshly brewed sparkling water!
Sparkling water is my go-to for adding excitement to any drink.
Grab yourself a few tall glasses and pour a fancy alcohol-free drink and get your fancy on:
Don't forget about the ice!
Simple, fresh orange juice is perfect for a brunch or morning pick-me-up drink!
I get what it's like to get stuck in alcohol cravings.
The itch is what I like to call it. In my first two years of Sobriety, I had cravings a lot. It's normal because I spent a decade in a toxic love affair with alcohol.
Here are my 3 Tips to help you push through alcohol cravings.
1) Do something else.
When the craving hits, don't just sit in it the thoughts of it. First, except this is normal, and DO NOT beat yourself up about it. Second, DO something. Take action and start doing something during this time. Cravings are around 7 minutes. So perfect time to distract yourself with journaling, exercise, drink some hot tea/water, color, and or read. Tons of options to distract yourself during that time.
2) Remember your why.
When the craving hits, again, except the thought and remember, it's healthy! Then remember why you are choosing a life without alcohol. Rember where alcohol leads you and where you never want to go back...
Here is the beautiful Hannah sending the sober since 12/31/18...
“365 days. To you, that may be a number. To me, it is everything. It’s the day my life started over. It’s a second chance. It’s a reminder that I am enough.
It’s the day I chose ME.
Recovery: It’s hard.
It’s a constant looming in the back of my head. It’s going to rehab, taking what I learned and using it. It’s a choice I make every time I get paid. It’s a right turn into my therapist’s office instead of a left turn towards my old dealer. It’s another person removed from my life. It’s reaching out to those who can help. It’s every moment of everyday kind of thing. Recovery: It’s the best. It’s a fresh start every morning. It’s cuddling my baby instead of sitting alone on the bathroom floor. It’s taking my grandma out to lunch. It’s working with people I love. It’s watching The Office with my...
Are you are in a little funk currently because you are feeling stuck in your Sobriety journey.
I get it.
I've been on this road for over seven years and have gone through being stuck, lows of self-doubt, and needing pep talks daily.
When I discovered the practice of daily mantras, things started to change for me when it came to what story I was telling myself. I started my training a few years back, and I began to feel lighter and free. I believe in the power of positive self-talk.
I know you may be thinking how can this help me and how uncomfortable this will feel, but they HELP. Mantras start to rewire your brain and give you that pep talk that you need. They truly change your mindset and help you gain confidence.
Sobriety and recovery are work, and this is part of it.
REBUILDING YOU is crucial to building your solid foundation in this journey.
I put together ten powerful mantras I have heard or have come...
Here is the awesome Mary sending the Sober Vibes since 2/5/17...
“Today, I celebrate THREE YEARS of freedom from alcohol. Everything in my life is exponentially better than I could ever have imagined.
This Naked Mind by Annie Grace changed how I think about alcohol and taught me that I never HAVE to drink alcohol ever again. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is even a little curious about living a life free of alcohol.
There are many incredible sober IG accounts that I follow that provide insight and encouragement. @teedoodler is my favorite. His posts always give me something to think about.
A few of my other IG favorites are @courtney___andersen @sobergirlsociety @1000hoursdry @1000hoursdry_sf @boozeless @thisnakedmind
And finally, I think it’s important to point out that there is not one single negative thing about not drinking. Not an only thing.”
Happy 3rd Birthday! Keep kicking ass and inspiring others along your journey.
Here is the beautiful Christy sending the Sober Vibes since..1/20/2018!
“Since quitting drinking two years ago, I knew my life would get better. I didn’t realize how much. It’s truly been amazing. I damaged so many relationships when I was drinking, especially my family. I never showed up on time, and when I did, it was in my state. It’s not that I didn’t care. I was such a slave to my disease and the bottle. Having removed that component, I’ve been showing up, even on-time, and I’m able to be present with my family and closest friends. I’m living my life with sobriety above everything else because if I didn’t have it, I wouldn’t have family, friends, or work. It works if you work it. The steps show through your actions. You get to live the promises. One day at a time.”
A slave to the bottle, so true! Congrats on your sobriety. Keep kicking ass and inspiring others along the way.
Here is the fantastic Shawna sending the Sober Vibes since 1/9/16!
“By the grace of God today, I’m sober!
I started my drinking at age 16 but wasn’t a full-blown alcoholic till I was 31 yrs old. I’ve been in and out of rehabs and institutions for the last 13yrs with no hopes insight, after numerous relapses and a 3rd felony DUI I went to treatment the last time in 2016 when I decided I was sick and tired of going to jail and just not being healthy! So that’s when my life changed.
It took me to SURRENDER completely and take 100% responsibility in all my actions that I FINALLY started to get sober and STAY sober!
Life has been challenging with its ups and downs and the wild and crazy emotions that come with sobriety dealing with them feelings. But dealing with them sober is the only way.
I thank God every day for giving me the most beautiful gift of sobriety!”
Congrats friend, keep inspiring and kicking ass in your recovery!
Here is the beautiful Terra sending the Sober Vibes since 10/16/18!
"Super grateful for these days of sober living! Working the 12 steps, my sponsor, meetings, staying connected to my higher power, and sharing my story to help others has had an immense impact on my life! I couldn't of imagined living a life without alcohol, and now I couldn't imagine a life with it. Every day I'm reminded of the gift that has been given to me and continues to grow mentally and spiritually alongside some amazing people in sobriety! We can do this one day at a time!"
Amazing. Keep kicking ass and inspiring others along your journey.