Stuck in the “I’ll Quit Someday” Trap? 6 Quitting Alcohol Tips That Actually Help You Stop Drinking

Episode 240: Stuck in the “I’ll Quit Someday” Trap? 6 Quitting Alcohol Tips That Actually Help You Stop Drinking

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“The perfect day to quit doesn’t exist, but today does.”

Are you stuck in the “I’ll quit someday” cycle? Maybe you’ve promised yourself you’ll stop drinking after the holidays, once work slows down, or when life feels less stressful. 

But waiting for someday only keeps you trapped.

In this episode of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I’m sharing six practical tips to quit drinking that will help you finally take action. Whether you want to commit to 30 days without alcohol, learn how to stop drinking every night, or break free from the habit of drinking wine to cope with stress.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

• Why bargaining with alcohol keeps you stuck in the moderation cycle
• How focusing on one day at a time makes sobriety less overwhelming
• Simple ways to create emotional safety nets so you don’t cave under pressure
• How to replace the “reward loop” of alcohol with healthier habits
• Why taking messy action matters more than waiting until you feel ready
• The power of finding a sober community and the right support system

If you’ve been telling yourself you’ll quit “someday,” this episode will show you how to start today.

Have you ever told yourself “I’ll quit drinking someday”?
Someday after the holidays. Someday when life slows down. Someday when you get the dream job. Someday when the relationship ends.

Here’s the truth, waiting for someday is what keeps you stuck. I always say, “Waiting for the someday is what’s going to keep you stuck in that drinking, that moderation cycle that you’ve been stuck in for a very long time.”

Sobriety does not begin when the perfect moment arrives. It begins when you decide today is enough. In this post, I am sharing six quitting alcohol tips that will help you stop drinking and start living.

1. Stop Negotiating with Alcohol

Most people who say “someday” are not ready to fully let go. I will tell you right now, “Someday is usually code for I don’t want to let this go yet.”

Every time you bargain with yourself, like I’ll just drink on weekends, I’ll stop after two, I’ll quit once things calm down, alcohol stays in control. The sooner you stop negotiating, the sooner you start to heal.

Sobriety begins when you draw a line in the sand. No more bargaining. No more someday.

2. Focus on Just One Day

The idea of never drinking again is overwhelming, especially in the beginning. That is why I encourage you to focus on the smallest block of time, which is today.

“24-hour blocks are what make long-term sobriety possible… all we can control is today.”

Instead of saying, “I can never drink again,” change your language to, “I don’t have to drink today.” That daily choice adds up to weeks, months, and eventually years, but it all happens one day at a time.

3. Build Emotional Safety Nets

Life is never going to magically settle down once you quit. Stress, chaos, and emotions will still be there. What changes is how you cope with them.

“Quitting is about new coping, not escaping stress.”

Journaling, podcasts, supportive communities, and steady routines are emotional safety nets. They catch you on hard days and remind you that you are not alone. The more you build in grounding practices, the less likely you will be to reach for alcohol as your default.

4. Replace the Reward Loop

Alcohol used to be your reward at the end of a long day. It was how you celebrated or gave yourself a treat. But your brain still needs rewards even when you stop drinking.

I always tell my clients, “You got to teach yourself that joy still exists without booze.”

That might look like treating yourself to ice cream at seven days sober, buying flowers at thirty days, or picking up a new novel at sixty days. It does not have to be big, it just has to remind your brain that good things still come without alcohol.

5. Take Action Before You Feel Ready

One of the biggest traps is waiting until you feel ready. Spoiler alert, that day is never going to come.

“Confidence comes after action, not before.” You do not get sober by waiting until everything feels perfect. You get sober by taking messy first steps and building confidence as you go.

Whether your first step is tossing out the wine, joining a support group, or simply deciding not to drink today, action is what shifts your story.

6. Get Support Beyond Willpower

Willpower is limited. It can get you through a day or two, but it will not carry you long term. What keeps people sober is support.

That might be one-on-one coaching, a sobriety group like the Sober Vibes Circle, therapy, or trusted accountability partners.

I will remind you the same way I do in my podcast, “The perfect day to quit doesn’t exist, but today does.” Support is the bridge between that decision and lasting sobriety.

Conclusion

If you have been telling yourself “someday I’ll quit drinking,” it is time to stop waiting. Someday is not coming. Today is the day.

You do not have to negotiate with alcohol anymore. You do not have to figure out forever. You only need to focus on today, build your safety nets, find new rewards, and lean on support.

Your future self will look back and thank you for choosing action instead of waiting.

As always,

Keep on trucking.

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