Once you quit, things just don’t get better over night.
It’s a process, you have to do the work(whichever type is right for you) on yourself and trust the process of getting very uncomfortable with feelings. For so long we were afraid of feelings. They are not the end of the world.
Feelings are emotionally energy, not personality traits!! You may be stuck in a feeling for some time, I know when I got sober I was sad for the first year with some angry rage in there. I mean I was a dick but that’s all part of the process...you are grieving.
In a matter of 6 weeks I quit drinking, lost my sweet Jerry and then quit smoking for her. Yes for her, if I didn’t make that promise to her I would still be smoking cigs today. For reals. That was a lot to lose at once and for some reading this you may think, what’s the big deal? But alcohol and cigs were my bestie, I was addicted to them and they were a shield of protection for me. That’s the story I created in my head with them because I did not develop proper coping tools as my life evolved.
So today if you are in your feels, process them for however long you need to and move on at your own time. Not the time someone else is telling you to go out. Recovery is not a destination it’s a journey of one at YOUR OWN PACE!!